The odds are if you haven't cheated you will, and your significant other has, or currently is or one day will.This not a judgment, it is just reality. A puritanical society, one which seeks to control the masses, has made the learned concept of monogamy, a monotonous and stressful way to live -- leading to a dispassionate life, where death is almost welcomed.
Nearly everyone cheats.You would be shocked to learn that those you least would ever suspect, have carried on years long affairs. If you are a cheating spouse–don’t turn your affair into your marriage, it isn't fair for your paramour to now become embroiled in a loveless, sexless relationship.
The reason you entered a sexual affair, was because there was a lack of --
•raw sexual activity
If your affair is no longer fun, no longer passionate, no longer exciting -- what's the point? It is bad for you, but even worse for the person with whom you are having an affair. That person knows his or her role. He or she is on-call around your marriage schedule. He or she understands they are not simply in the backseat to your spouse, family and job, but they are in a U-Haul trailer, behind another trailer.
It is sad but true, but their emotions do not count. Their feelings matter little. They may proclaim their love, but they get that the married one is only paying lip service. It is one thing to know these things, it is quite another to have them rubbed in their face by neglect, by dismissive attitudes, and by repeated rejection and denial. The affair fulfills a need, not only for YOU, but for the person with whom you are engaging. Both have needs, wants, desires, but the other, non-married party, realizes that he or she is the less important -- it is the responsibility of the married participant to not make them feel it any more than they must. In Faithfully Unfaithful, the narrator explains this, not simply to his lover, but to the audience.
Affairs can be great. Affairs fulfill a need.
Affairs can save a marriage.
Just remember, the person with whom YOU are having the affair has feelings, wants and needs as well.
Explore multiple lovers.
Explore passion that need not be limited to one.